His BFF is Gone… and I’m so sad :(

This year when Jayden started 2nd grade and started is Mrs. Rice’s class he made his first BFF. Jayden had been through K-1 without a BFF.  I don’t know if this is normal.  I don’t know if it’s because Jayden is different (IMO in the BEST way possible) but I do know that when he got moved to Mrs. Robert’s class and he was no longer in Isaiah’s class I learned that Jayden had truly found his BFF.  


Isaiah would come to my car ever, single day after school to ask if they could have a play date.  They now only had 1 recess together and yet they still remained so close.  I loved this.  I loved that Jayden finally knew what it was like have that one best friend!  


Today he came home and I asked him if he played with Isaiah at recess and he said no, he moved to California.


MY HEART ALMOST STOPPED!


His best friend is gone.  No goodbye…. just gone.  And my heart is completely aching for him.  I remember when we were considering moving to Colorado and he said to me, “But I can’t leave Isaiah, Mom.”  SIGH I could ramble on and on all night long… I really could. 


I was moved around a lot as kid…… seriously here’s how it goes:


K – started in Jackson, CA ended in Lodi, CA
1 – started in Lodi, CA ended in Jackson, CA
2- completely in Jackson, CA – wow… a year of stability :)  
3- started in Jackson, CA ended in Ely, NV
4 – Ely, NV
5 – Started in Ely, NV ended in Fallon, NV
6- Started in Fallon, NV, moved to Ely, NV, then moved to Jackson, CA then back to Ely, NV 
7- Full year in Boarding School in Sheridan, OR Delphi
8- Started in Fallon, NV ended in Jackson, CA
9- Started in Jackson, CA, then went to New Haven in UT
10- Sacramento, CA Country Day School for the entire year
11-12 home study and graduate early


and the kicker…. I was not a military brat.  Nope…. that’s just the life of a dysfunctional family for you.


That my friends is some absolute craziness, and that my friends is why I am so adamant about staying planted where we are.  I want my kids to be in ONE place.  Luckily for me, for the most part I kept going back to places I had already made friends…. so I’d just pick up where I left.  Through all that moving around though I kept one friend through it all… her name is Jenise.  Jenise and I actually started Kindergarten together in Jackson, CA…. the first place on my crazy school list.  Today, with me living in Oregon and her in Sacramento we are still best friends.  We will always be best friends!  


I was hoping that Isaiah was going to be Jayden’s best friend like Jenise was mine.  I’m so heartbroken that they won’t be.

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6 comments to His BFF is Gone… and I’m so sad :(

  • Nada

    Oh how sad for Jayden!!! :( That is the worst! Jeremy and I were talking last night about how he always says he is "so great" and how cute that is!

  • Nada

    I mean that he says he is "so great" when you ask him how he is doing…not that he refers to himself as so great (which is he anyways!) HAHA

  • Kristine

    The resiliency of small children strikes me. You ask about Isaiah and from the sounds of it, Jayden just calmly responds that his best friend has moved off to California. Your little boy sounds like a lovely independent spirit. He'll find a best friend again.

  • Ashley

    Oh that's so sad! Poor guy :(

  • DysFUNctional Mom

    Aw, that is sad. If it helps any, my kids usually change best friends at least every school year, so he probably wouldn't have been that one best friend for life…that is so rare and you are lucky! I met by BFF when I was 15, we've been BFFs for over 20 years (man I feel old! lol). I am so blessed to have her.
    I hope Jayden is ok and makes new friends quickly.
    xoxo

  • Patty Reiser

    My heart goes out to the both of you. I recall how devastating it can be. Her name was Carrie and I still remember watching her car drive away when she moved. Never saw her again. But I have a good story to share. I moved away from my best friend from 1st grade. We kept in touch. We have now been friends for 34 years. And its only been the last two years that we have lived within the same state.

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