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This week I’m stealing from myself. This post has a portion of an old post that was originally posted for Just a Motivating Monday back on November 16, 2009. I stole the main jist of it and am going to add a different, updated final thought at the end. With that said……..
Everybody has been hurt by someone they love. Or maybe you hurt someone you love. The point is… we have to be able to forgive in our heart.
President Hinckley of the LDS Church once said in an article:
“Somehow forgiveness, with love and tolerance, accomplishes miracles that can happen in no other way.”
I know it is so hard at times to forgive people, but are you perfect? Have you gone through your whole life not doing a thing wrong to someone? Have you been forgiven? Forgiving somebody, especially yourself can be one of the hardest things in this world to do. But if you are virtuous and want to be forgiven, you yourself MUST do this.
Tips to Forgive~
- Pray to Heavenly Father and ask Him for His help. He can soften your heart and help you to forgive.
- Get rid of the bitterness. If you’re still plotting out ways to get even the forgiving process is no where near.
- Once you have forgiven, let it go. Don’t hold on to it, because that’s holding a grudge… which does not mean you have forgiven.
- Don’t focus so much on the negative things that have happened to you. If you are focusing on the positive things in your life, and the positive things people have done for you, you will be able to forgive the negative things easier. There’s no point in holding on to negativity when there’s so much positivity to welcome into your heart.
- You need to remember that when you are forgiving, it’s for you. It’s not for the person that did you wrong, but it is for you and your exaltation. It’s a process you must go through, and you will be forgiving others for you.
A very good friend of mine… you can find her on twitter @jenhoehne contributed to this post by saying:
“I think that forgiveness is one of those words like “love” that people use loosley. To truly forgive someone means you have let go of any ill will and no longer harbor feelings of anger or angst toward another person.
Forgiving ourselves goes hand in hand with forgiving others. We are often times harder on ourselves than the person or people we have wronged. Forgiving others means letting go of hurt they have caused you and forgiving yourself is learning to love yourself after you have caused another person pain. Both are crutial in the eternal realm of this life and critical to our salvation and prosperity hereafter.”
My Final Thoughts ~
I have people, very close people, do me wrong. They’ve said things to me that stabbed me in the heart and at one point I thought I’d never want them back in my life again. Reading my final thoughts from this post back in 2009 made me smile at who I’ve become and grown into. I have a lot of forgiveness in my heart, because I know that I’m not perfect. I know that horrible things can be said and done ~ but today can also be the first day of the rest of your life. Today can be a fresh start with a clear heart. None of us are perfect. You are not perfect. I am not perfect. We can grow from our mistakes, and we can start fresh today.
That is the beauty of forgiveness.
I’m traveling down a road of forgiveness and it feels so good. I’m even letting go of hurt feelings that I’ve clung onto for many years towards my dad. I’m forgiving and growing my relationship with him with a fresh slate. It feels amazingly wonderful.
I hope that this post in some way will inspire you to start on the road of forgiveness ~ most importantly for yourself.