My kid does not have friends.
It has nothing to do with the fact that he’s not in school, because he had no friends there for the 3 1/4 years he was there.
As I’ve mentioned before, he has a language disability and it makes him socially awkward. This in turn makes other kids and probably their parents think he’s weird and then they don’t give him a chance to open up and know the sweet, lovable, amazing Jayden that there is to know. If you ask him who his best friend is he usually will say this girl he went to school with who probably doesn’t even pay any mind to him. It’s heart breaking to me, and I can only ask a parent so many times if their kid will play with my kid.
Jayden is going to be 10 years old and it’s not okay to not have a friend that you can invite over to hang out with you, ride bikes with, play video games – just plain out be a kid with!
He’s okay with it. He’s happy and enjoys doing the things that he loves like video games and playing games with his 3 year old sister, but a 10 year old’s best friend is not supposed to be a 3 year old. I have him involved in activities and he enjoys them while he’s there – but that’s the extent of Jayden’s social life. Tonight I picked him up from boyscouts to see him running around and around and around singing this song that’s in his head while the other kids are just quietly standing there. He’s different! We’re all different! Why in the hell is it so hard to my son to have a damn friend who will accept him for who he is?! We’re Mormon! Hell, shouldn’t some of the kids in our ward befriend him? No. He doesn’t get invited to the birthday parties, he doesn’t get invited to ANYTHING – Jayden is ALWAYS the one left out and forgotten.
These are reasons why being a mom is hard. Not the fact that you have to actually take care of them, pay attention to them, feed them – all of that is easy peasy in my book! It’s the worrying about their health, their heart, their feelings, how this horrible, cruel world will treat them.